It was a very interesting meeting yesterday. It wasn't because of what was discussed at the meeting. It was what some of us found out yesterday. Because of privacy issues I won't say the brothers name but it also goes to show you that you must use caution when gossip starts to happen.
I was told that one of the brothers who was raised in the truth left the truth for sometime. During the time he was away he became a homosexual and he was that way for sometime. The brother changed his life and returned to the truth. This was several years ago but new to those who didn't know about his lifestyle.
First I asked the brother how he knew and he said he was told by another brother and said the Elders knew about it as well. Next I asked the brother who told me, has he told anyone else. He said no. So I told him to keep it that way.
I told the brother the dangers of gossip and besides, Jehovah does not look at our past. He looks what we do today. Was the brother Homosexual? Well if he wants to tell me about his past then so be it but if he doesn't want to open up his past then so be it. Gossip is something that is very dangerous.
As long as there are people, there will be gossip. Even the perfect new world prophesied about in the Bible will likely not be gossip free. Informal, casual talk about friends and acquaintances is an integral part of the way we communicate with one another.
Nevertheless, there is never an excuse for hurtful, malicious gossip, or slander! That kind of talk injures and maims; it may even ruin lives, relationships, and reputations. So how can you avoid stepping over the line of propriety and indulging in harmful gossip? How might you protect yourself from it? Some of the best advice ever offered on this subject is written in the Bible.
Bite Your Tongue: It has been said that “conversation is an exercise of the mind, but gossiping is merely an exercise of the tongue.” Really, most injurious speech reflects, not malice, but a failure to think before speaking. Some blab the business of others; they spice, exaggerate, and distort with little thought to the consequences. They expose to others the faults of their friends, mates, and children without even discerning the damage they inflict.
The Bible thus gives this advice: “In the abundance of words there does not fail to be transgression, but the one keeping his lips in check is acting discreetly.” In other words, think before you speak. Think before you say something about someone else. Ask yourself: ‘Would I repeat it in the person’s presence? How would I feel if this was said about me?’ Psalm 39:1: “I will guard my ways to keep from sinning with my tongue. I will set a muzzle as a guard to my own mouth.”
Admittedly, there may be circumstances in which biting your tongue may prove to be almost impossible. For example, you may have strong suspicions of serious wrongdoing committed against you or your family. You may not have any proof, but you feel the need to do something about it. Would it be slanderous to talk about it with a trusted friend or someone in authority? Are you a malicious gossiper if you approach someone for advice? Clearly not. The Bible acknowledges the wisdom of confidential talk. Of course, good judgment and balance are vital when handling such delicate situations.
Do Not Listen to Hurtful Gossip: What would happen to ‘big mouths,’ if there were no ‘big ears’? Those who are constantly engaged in foolish talk are only part of the problem; those who take delight in paying attention are also accountable. Simply listening may constitute your silent approval and contribute to the spread of hurtful gossip. Proverbs 17:4 says: “The evildoer is paying attention to the lip of hurtfulness. A falsifier is giving ear to the tongue causing adversities.”
So when talk about someone gets out of hand, you may have to show some courage and say, ‘Let’s change the subject.’ And if your present circle of friends prove incurably prone to engage in harmful gossip, you may even have to consider finding new associates. Says the Bible: “A gossip can never keep a secret. Stay away from people who talk too much.” Likely, it is just a matter of time before you become the topic for discussion.
Do Not Overreact to Gossip: Most people enjoy gossip as long as the gossip is not about them. On the other hand, suppose you are the victim of an ugly rumor or false story. Sometimes it is possible to track down the source of the story and calmly straighten matters out. But what if you cannot?
Your getting angry accomplishes nothing. Indeed, “he that is quick to anger will commit foolishness,” says the Bible. Solomon thus gives this advice: “Do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak. For your own heart well knows even many times that you, even you, have called down evil upon others.”
Gossip is a fact of life, and at one time or another, you have probably been an active participant in it yourself. Is the matter really worth getting upset over? Will it most likely fade away after a while? There is “a time to laugh,” and perhaps showing that you have a sense of humor, laughing it off would be the best way to extinguish the rumor.
Do Not Add Fuel to the Fire: If the story simply refuses to die, ask yourself: Could it be that I am giving others a reason to gossip? Am I perhaps behaving in a questionable manner, giving the appearance of wrongdoing?
If you are the victim of malicious gossip, it may thus prove helpful to determine if your behavior, your manner of dealing with others, even your dress and grooming, are in some way adding fuel to the fire. Perhaps some adjustments in your life-style would squelch the rumors. Besides, if your actions are close to the borderline of impropriety, there is always the real danger of actually slipping into wrongdoing—making what was once a rumor a reality.
Gossip is here to stay. However, it must be respected for its potentially destructive power. You can avoid much heartache and grief for yourself and others simply by following these wise words: “Whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering these things and the God of peace will be with you.
Yes, God himself is interested in the way we speak of others. Jesus Christ warned: “Every unprofitable saying that men speak, they will render an account concerning it on Judgment Day; for by your words you will be declared righteous, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Do you want good relations with others, peace of mind, and, most important of all, a good standing with God? Then follow the inspired counsel of God’s Word: “Make it your aim to live quietly and to mind your own business.” Show an interest in others, but do so in a kindly, dignified way. Thus you will steer clear of malicious, harmful gossip.
If this brother found out that people were talking about him behind his back about his former life-style, I'm sure he will be hurt. No reason to discuss him. So I reminded the brother who told me that unless he does something that is against Jehovah's laws, there is no need to talk about the brother unless its to encourage him and help him if needed. He is a very strong in the truth and very encouraging to me.
Anyway, have a great day all and see you tomorrow. .... .. . .
Monday, October 5, 2009
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Thursday
I tried to come back to update but just couldn't. I went right to bed. I wasn't feeling very well but I'm at work today. Keeping my distance from others. No I don't have swine or anything. I have a sinus infection it hurts badly but I'm trying to get through the day and sleep when I get home.
One of things though that was brought up was a married couple who are very young. The husband mentioned his issues to me that he had with this wife. I listened so I can offer advise since my wife and I started really young.
Looking back at our relationship and listening to the issues in his relationship, it more or less sounded the same. First let me say that turning 18 makes you an adult yes but in order to be an adult, you must act like an adult. When an Adult who is more mature and experienced offers advise, don't be so defensive. Just Listen and see if it applies to you.
Every relationship in order to succeed must have trust. You of course must have Love but you must also learn how to respect one another. How to speak to each other shows just how much you respect one another.
One of the things that helped me and my wife was reading and applying the book called " Two Keys to Family Happiness "
The first key is love. Interestingly, there are different kinds of love identified in the Bible. One is a warm, personal affection for someone, the kind of love that exists between close friends. Another is the love that grows between family members. A third is the romantic love that one can have for a member of the opposite sex
Of course, all of these should be cultivated by a husband and a wife. But there is a fourth kind of love, more important than the others. In the original language of the Christian Greek Scriptures, the word for this fourth kind of love is a‧ga′pe. That word is used at 1 John 4:8, where we are told: “God is love.” Indeed, “we love, because God first loved us.”
A Christian cultivates such love first for Jehovah God and then for fellow humans. The word a‧ga′pe is also used at Ephesians 5:2, which states: “Go on walking in love, just as the Christ also loved you and delivered himself up for you.” Jesus said that this kind of love would identify his true followers: “By this all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love [a‧ga′pe] among yourselves.”
Notice, too, the use of a‧ga′pe at 1 Corinthians 13:13: “There remain faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love [a‧ga′pe].”
What makes this a‧ga′pe love greater than faith and hope? It is governed by principles—right principles—found in God’s Word. It is an unselfish concern for doing to others what is right and good from God’s standpoint, whether the recipient appears to deserve it or not.
Such love enables marriage partners to follow the Bible’s counsel: “Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Even as Jehovah freely forgave you, so do you also.” Loving married couples have and cultivate “intense love [a‧ga′pe] for each other, because love covers a multitude of sins.”
Notice that love covers mistakes. It does not eliminate them, since no imperfect human can be free from error. When such love of God and of each other is cultivated by a married couple, their marriage will last and be happy, for “love never fails.” Love is “a perfect bond of union.” If you are married, how can you and your mate cultivate this kind of love? Read God’s Word together, and talk about it. Study Jesus’ example of love and try to imitate him, to think and act like him. Pray for God’s help to develop this elevated kind of love, which is a fruit of God’s holy
If two married people really love each other, then they will also have respect for each other, and respect is the second key to a happy marriage. Respect is defined as “giving consideration to others, honoring them.” God’s Word counsels all Christians, including husbands and wives: “In showing honor to one another take the lead.”
The apostle Peter wrote: “You husbands, continue dwelling in like manner with your wives according to knowledge, assigning them honor as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one.” The wife is counseled to “have deep respect for her husband.”
If you want to honor someone, you are kind to that person, respectful of that one’s dignity and expressed views, and ready to fulfill any reasonable request made of you.
Those who wish to enjoy a happy marriage show respect for their mates by “keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just their own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of their mates.”
They do not consider what is good only for themselves—which would be selfish. Instead, they consider what is best also for their mates. Indeed, they give that the priority. Respect will help marriage partners to acknowledge differences in viewpoint. It is not reasonable to expect two people to have identical views on everything. What may be important to a husband may not be as important to a wife, and what a wife likes may not be what a husband likes. But each should respect the views and choices of the other, as long as these are within the boundaries of Jehovah’s laws and principles.
Further, each should respect the dignity of the other by not making that one the object of demeaning comments or jokes, whether in public or in private. Yes, love of God and of each other and mutual respect are two vital keys to a successful marriage.
Love and respect are essential in another area of marriage, communication. The loving husband will converse with his wife about her activities, her problems, her views on various matters. She needs this. A husband who takes the time to speak with his wife and really listens to what she says demonstrates his love and respect for her.
Some wives complain that their husbands spend very little time conversing with them. That is sad. True, in these busy times, husbands may work long hours outside the home, and economic circumstances may result in some wives holding a job also. But a married couple need to reserve time for each other. Otherwise, they may become independent of each other. It could lead to serious problems if they felt compelled to seek sympathetic companionship outside the marriage arrangement.
The way wives and husbands communicate is important. “Pleasant sayings are . . . sweet to the soul and a healing to the bones.” Whether a mate is a believer or not, the Bible counsel applies: “Let your utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt,” that is, in good taste. When one has had a difficult day, a few kind, sympathetic words from one’s mate can do much good. “As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.”
The tone of voice and the choice of words are very important. For example, in an irritated, demanding manner, one may tell the other: “Shut that door!” But how much more “seasoned with salt” are the words, said in a calm, understanding voice, “Would you mind closing the door, please?”
Good communication flourishes when there are gently spoken words, gracious looks and gestures, kindness, understanding, and tenderness. By working hard to maintain good communication, both husband and wife will feel free to make their needs known, and they can be sources of comfort and help to each other in times of disappointment or stress. “Speak consolingly to the depressed souls,” urges God’s Word.
There will be times when the husband is downhearted and times when the wife is. They can “speak consolingly,” building each other up.Marriage partners manifesting love and respect will not see every disagreement as a challenge. They will work hard not to be “bitterly angry” with each other. Both should remember that “an answer, when mild, turns away rage.”
Be careful not to belittle or condemn a mate who pours out heartfelt feelings. Instead, view such expressions as an opportunity to gain insight into the other’s viewpoint. Together, try to work out differences and come to a harmonious conclusion.
Recall the occasion when Sarah recommended to her husband, Abraham, a solution to a certain problem and it did not coincide with his feelings. Yet, God told Abraham: “Listen to her voice.” (Genesis 21:9-12) Abraham did, and he was blessed. Similarly, if a wife suggests something different from what her husband has in mind, he should at least listen. At the same time, a wife should not dominate the conversation but should listen to what her husband has to say. For either the husband or the wife to insist on his or her own way all the time is unloving and disrespectful.
Good communication is also important in a couple’s sexual relationship. Selfishness and a lack of self-control can seriously damage this most intimate relationship in marriage. Open communication, along with patience, is essential. When each unselfishly seeks the well-being of the other, sex is rarely a serious problem. In this as in other matters, “let each one keep seeking, not his own advantage, but that of the other person.”
True, every marriage will have its ups and downs. But when spouses submit to Jehovah’s thinking, as revealed in the Bible, and base their relationship on principled love and respect, they can be confident that their marriage will be lasting and happy. They thus will honor not only each other but also the Originator of marriage, Jehovah God.
In my marriage and I've often talked about it here, I tell my wife how much I love her. I try not to let a day go by without telling her. I listen to her and hear her feelings. She hears what I say and we work on any minor issues we may have. I can't even remember the last time we had a disagreement. We respect and love each other very much as if we were newlyweds.
Am I the only example? No of course not. There are many couples in the truth and those who are not in the truth who have been with each other for years. How do they do it in a world where divorce happens all the time?
Well, they apply the two keys.....They respect and love and listen and learn from each other.
In the relationship that I talked about in the beginning, I do hope that it works out between them but if they continue down this path, I can tell you that someone will get hurt and divorce may be in their future.....I sure hope not....Till tomorrow......
One of things though that was brought up was a married couple who are very young. The husband mentioned his issues to me that he had with this wife. I listened so I can offer advise since my wife and I started really young.
Looking back at our relationship and listening to the issues in his relationship, it more or less sounded the same. First let me say that turning 18 makes you an adult yes but in order to be an adult, you must act like an adult. When an Adult who is more mature and experienced offers advise, don't be so defensive. Just Listen and see if it applies to you.
Every relationship in order to succeed must have trust. You of course must have Love but you must also learn how to respect one another. How to speak to each other shows just how much you respect one another.
One of the things that helped me and my wife was reading and applying the book called " Two Keys to Family Happiness "
The first key is love. Interestingly, there are different kinds of love identified in the Bible. One is a warm, personal affection for someone, the kind of love that exists between close friends. Another is the love that grows between family members. A third is the romantic love that one can have for a member of the opposite sex
Of course, all of these should be cultivated by a husband and a wife. But there is a fourth kind of love, more important than the others. In the original language of the Christian Greek Scriptures, the word for this fourth kind of love is a‧ga′pe. That word is used at 1 John 4:8, where we are told: “God is love.” Indeed, “we love, because God first loved us.”
A Christian cultivates such love first for Jehovah God and then for fellow humans. The word a‧ga′pe is also used at Ephesians 5:2, which states: “Go on walking in love, just as the Christ also loved you and delivered himself up for you.” Jesus said that this kind of love would identify his true followers: “By this all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love [a‧ga′pe] among yourselves.”
Notice, too, the use of a‧ga′pe at 1 Corinthians 13:13: “There remain faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love [a‧ga′pe].”
What makes this a‧ga′pe love greater than faith and hope? It is governed by principles—right principles—found in God’s Word. It is an unselfish concern for doing to others what is right and good from God’s standpoint, whether the recipient appears to deserve it or not.
Such love enables marriage partners to follow the Bible’s counsel: “Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Even as Jehovah freely forgave you, so do you also.” Loving married couples have and cultivate “intense love [a‧ga′pe] for each other, because love covers a multitude of sins.”
Notice that love covers mistakes. It does not eliminate them, since no imperfect human can be free from error. When such love of God and of each other is cultivated by a married couple, their marriage will last and be happy, for “love never fails.” Love is “a perfect bond of union.” If you are married, how can you and your mate cultivate this kind of love? Read God’s Word together, and talk about it. Study Jesus’ example of love and try to imitate him, to think and act like him. Pray for God’s help to develop this elevated kind of love, which is a fruit of God’s holy
If two married people really love each other, then they will also have respect for each other, and respect is the second key to a happy marriage. Respect is defined as “giving consideration to others, honoring them.” God’s Word counsels all Christians, including husbands and wives: “In showing honor to one another take the lead.”
The apostle Peter wrote: “You husbands, continue dwelling in like manner with your wives according to knowledge, assigning them honor as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one.” The wife is counseled to “have deep respect for her husband.”
If you want to honor someone, you are kind to that person, respectful of that one’s dignity and expressed views, and ready to fulfill any reasonable request made of you.
Those who wish to enjoy a happy marriage show respect for their mates by “keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just their own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of their mates.”
They do not consider what is good only for themselves—which would be selfish. Instead, they consider what is best also for their mates. Indeed, they give that the priority. Respect will help marriage partners to acknowledge differences in viewpoint. It is not reasonable to expect two people to have identical views on everything. What may be important to a husband may not be as important to a wife, and what a wife likes may not be what a husband likes. But each should respect the views and choices of the other, as long as these are within the boundaries of Jehovah’s laws and principles.
Further, each should respect the dignity of the other by not making that one the object of demeaning comments or jokes, whether in public or in private. Yes, love of God and of each other and mutual respect are two vital keys to a successful marriage.
Love and respect are essential in another area of marriage, communication. The loving husband will converse with his wife about her activities, her problems, her views on various matters. She needs this. A husband who takes the time to speak with his wife and really listens to what she says demonstrates his love and respect for her.
Some wives complain that their husbands spend very little time conversing with them. That is sad. True, in these busy times, husbands may work long hours outside the home, and economic circumstances may result in some wives holding a job also. But a married couple need to reserve time for each other. Otherwise, they may become independent of each other. It could lead to serious problems if they felt compelled to seek sympathetic companionship outside the marriage arrangement.
The way wives and husbands communicate is important. “Pleasant sayings are . . . sweet to the soul and a healing to the bones.” Whether a mate is a believer or not, the Bible counsel applies: “Let your utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt,” that is, in good taste. When one has had a difficult day, a few kind, sympathetic words from one’s mate can do much good. “As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.”
The tone of voice and the choice of words are very important. For example, in an irritated, demanding manner, one may tell the other: “Shut that door!” But how much more “seasoned with salt” are the words, said in a calm, understanding voice, “Would you mind closing the door, please?”
Good communication flourishes when there are gently spoken words, gracious looks and gestures, kindness, understanding, and tenderness. By working hard to maintain good communication, both husband and wife will feel free to make their needs known, and they can be sources of comfort and help to each other in times of disappointment or stress. “Speak consolingly to the depressed souls,” urges God’s Word.
There will be times when the husband is downhearted and times when the wife is. They can “speak consolingly,” building each other up.Marriage partners manifesting love and respect will not see every disagreement as a challenge. They will work hard not to be “bitterly angry” with each other. Both should remember that “an answer, when mild, turns away rage.”
Be careful not to belittle or condemn a mate who pours out heartfelt feelings. Instead, view such expressions as an opportunity to gain insight into the other’s viewpoint. Together, try to work out differences and come to a harmonious conclusion.
Recall the occasion when Sarah recommended to her husband, Abraham, a solution to a certain problem and it did not coincide with his feelings. Yet, God told Abraham: “Listen to her voice.” (Genesis 21:9-12) Abraham did, and he was blessed. Similarly, if a wife suggests something different from what her husband has in mind, he should at least listen. At the same time, a wife should not dominate the conversation but should listen to what her husband has to say. For either the husband or the wife to insist on his or her own way all the time is unloving and disrespectful.
Good communication is also important in a couple’s sexual relationship. Selfishness and a lack of self-control can seriously damage this most intimate relationship in marriage. Open communication, along with patience, is essential. When each unselfishly seeks the well-being of the other, sex is rarely a serious problem. In this as in other matters, “let each one keep seeking, not his own advantage, but that of the other person.”
True, every marriage will have its ups and downs. But when spouses submit to Jehovah’s thinking, as revealed in the Bible, and base their relationship on principled love and respect, they can be confident that their marriage will be lasting and happy. They thus will honor not only each other but also the Originator of marriage, Jehovah God.
In my marriage and I've often talked about it here, I tell my wife how much I love her. I try not to let a day go by without telling her. I listen to her and hear her feelings. She hears what I say and we work on any minor issues we may have. I can't even remember the last time we had a disagreement. We respect and love each other very much as if we were newlyweds.
Am I the only example? No of course not. There are many couples in the truth and those who are not in the truth who have been with each other for years. How do they do it in a world where divorce happens all the time?
Well, they apply the two keys.....They respect and love and listen and learn from each other.
In the relationship that I talked about in the beginning, I do hope that it works out between them but if they continue down this path, I can tell you that someone will get hurt and divorce may be in their future.....I sure hope not....Till tomorrow......
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Wed
Still trying to get over this sickness. I hate being sick, who doesn't? The bad part about being sick is being lazy. You don't want to do anything but stay in bed. I don't know if I mentioned this buy last month I think my mother was in the hospital. Maybe it was two months ago I can't remember but her tests came back and the Doctor wants one of her children to come with her so we can discuss her issues.
I love my mother very much. I will update more this afternoon.
I love my mother very much. I will update more this afternoon.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Where Have All the Christians Gone?
The number of people who claim no religious affiliation, meanwhile, has doubled since 1990 to fifteen percent, its highest point in history.
Christianity is plummeting in America, while the number of non-believers is skyrocketing.
A shocking new study of Americans’ religious beliefs shows the beginnings of a major realignment in Americans’ relationship with God. The American Religious Identification Survey (ARIS) reveals that Protestants now represent half of all Americans, down almost 20 percent in the last twenty years.
In the coming months, America will become a minority Protestant nation for the first time since the pilgrims.The number of people who claim no religious affiliation, meanwhile, has doubled since 1990 to fifteen percent, its highest point in history. Non-believers now represent the third-highest group of Americans, after Catholics and Baptists.
1) The number of Christians has declined 12% since 1990, and is now 76%, the lowest percentage in American history.
2) The growth of non-believers has come largely from men. Twenty percent of men express no religious affiliation; 12% of women.
3) Young people are fleeing faith. Nearly a quarter of Americans in their 20’s profess no organized religion.
4) But these non-believers are not particularly atheist. That number hasn’t budged and stands at less than 1 percent. (Agnostics are similarly less than 1 percent.) Instead, these individuals have a belief in God but no interest in organized religion, or they believe in a personal God but not in a formal faith tradition.
The implications for American society are profound. Americans’ relationship with God, which drove many of the country’s great transformations from the pilgrims to the founding fathers, the Civil War to the civil rights movement, is still intact. Eighty-two percent of Americans believe in God or a higher power.
But at the same time, the study offers yet another wake-up call for religious institutions.First, catering to older believers is a recipe for failure; younger Americans are tuning out.
Second, Americans are interested in God, but they don’t think existing institutions are helping them draw closer to God.
Finally, Americans’ interest in religion has not always been stable. It dipped following the Revolution and again following Civil War. In both cases it rebounded because religious institutions adapted and found new ways of relating to everyday Americans.
Today, the rise of disaffection is so powerful that different denominations needs to band together to find a shared language of God that can move beyond the fading divisions of the past and begin moving toward a partnership of different-but-equal traditions. Or risk becoming Europe, where religion is fast becoming an afterthought.
That was an article by Bruce Feiler. I found it very interesting. I wonder if he knows that there is a difference between those who are Christian and those who claim to be Christian. To be a Christian means to be Christ Like. It means to follow the steps of Jesus himself.
The question then becomes, how do I follow the steps of Jesus? Can I follow? Of course we can never be Jesus but we can be like him in a sense that we follow what he was taught. That is what it means to be Christ Like. To understand what he was taught, you have to look into scripture and understand what he taught. You have to look at scripture to understand what kind of man Jesus was or is...
Did Jesus fight in wars while in Earth? No
Did Jesus use Foul Language? No
Did Jesus commit fornication? No
Did Jesus get drunk? No
What the world does today Jesus would not do. Instead what he taught was love. Notice what is mentioned in the book of John starting at chapter 5.
Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them.
“Happy are those who mourn, since they will be comforted.
“Happy are the mild-tempered ones, since they will inherit the earth.
“Happy are those hungering and thirsting for righteousness, since they will be filled.
“Happy are the merciful, since they will be shown mercy.
“Happy are the pure in heart, since they will see God.
“Happy are the peaceable, since they will be called ‘sons of God.’
“Happy are those who have been persecuted for righteousness’ sake, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them.
YOU heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say to YOU that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
There is so much more in that wonderful chapter. To understand what Jesus was like, you have to study what Jesus was like. The fact that he came to Earth to Die for us should tell you what kind of man he was.
Compare Jesus to men today
Jesus the son of God who has power = not corrupted.
Man who receives power = corrupted
Jesus who has more power did has never allowed his power to hurt anyone, only to help. Men on this planet have murdered, raped, stole, you name it.
The title of his Article is " Where have all the Christians Gone? Well, maybe you aren't looking in the right place.........
7 million plus and growing...........
Till tomorrow.
Christianity is plummeting in America, while the number of non-believers is skyrocketing.
A shocking new study of Americans’ religious beliefs shows the beginnings of a major realignment in Americans’ relationship with God. The American Religious Identification Survey (ARIS) reveals that Protestants now represent half of all Americans, down almost 20 percent in the last twenty years.
In the coming months, America will become a minority Protestant nation for the first time since the pilgrims.The number of people who claim no religious affiliation, meanwhile, has doubled since 1990 to fifteen percent, its highest point in history. Non-believers now represent the third-highest group of Americans, after Catholics and Baptists.
1) The number of Christians has declined 12% since 1990, and is now 76%, the lowest percentage in American history.
2) The growth of non-believers has come largely from men. Twenty percent of men express no religious affiliation; 12% of women.
3) Young people are fleeing faith. Nearly a quarter of Americans in their 20’s profess no organized religion.
4) But these non-believers are not particularly atheist. That number hasn’t budged and stands at less than 1 percent. (Agnostics are similarly less than 1 percent.) Instead, these individuals have a belief in God but no interest in organized religion, or they believe in a personal God but not in a formal faith tradition.
The implications for American society are profound. Americans’ relationship with God, which drove many of the country’s great transformations from the pilgrims to the founding fathers, the Civil War to the civil rights movement, is still intact. Eighty-two percent of Americans believe in God or a higher power.
But at the same time, the study offers yet another wake-up call for religious institutions.First, catering to older believers is a recipe for failure; younger Americans are tuning out.
Second, Americans are interested in God, but they don’t think existing institutions are helping them draw closer to God.
Finally, Americans’ interest in religion has not always been stable. It dipped following the Revolution and again following Civil War. In both cases it rebounded because religious institutions adapted and found new ways of relating to everyday Americans.
Today, the rise of disaffection is so powerful that different denominations needs to band together to find a shared language of God that can move beyond the fading divisions of the past and begin moving toward a partnership of different-but-equal traditions. Or risk becoming Europe, where religion is fast becoming an afterthought.
That was an article by Bruce Feiler. I found it very interesting. I wonder if he knows that there is a difference between those who are Christian and those who claim to be Christian. To be a Christian means to be Christ Like. It means to follow the steps of Jesus himself.
The question then becomes, how do I follow the steps of Jesus? Can I follow? Of course we can never be Jesus but we can be like him in a sense that we follow what he was taught. That is what it means to be Christ Like. To understand what he was taught, you have to look into scripture and understand what he taught. You have to look at scripture to understand what kind of man Jesus was or is...
Did Jesus fight in wars while in Earth? No
Did Jesus use Foul Language? No
Did Jesus commit fornication? No
Did Jesus get drunk? No
What the world does today Jesus would not do. Instead what he taught was love. Notice what is mentioned in the book of John starting at chapter 5.
Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them.
“Happy are those who mourn, since they will be comforted.
“Happy are the mild-tempered ones, since they will inherit the earth.
“Happy are those hungering and thirsting for righteousness, since they will be filled.
“Happy are the merciful, since they will be shown mercy.
“Happy are the pure in heart, since they will see God.
“Happy are the peaceable, since they will be called ‘sons of God.’
“Happy are those who have been persecuted for righteousness’ sake, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them.
YOU heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say to YOU that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
There is so much more in that wonderful chapter. To understand what Jesus was like, you have to study what Jesus was like. The fact that he came to Earth to Die for us should tell you what kind of man he was.
Compare Jesus to men today
Jesus the son of God who has power = not corrupted.
Man who receives power = corrupted
Jesus who has more power did has never allowed his power to hurt anyone, only to help. Men on this planet have murdered, raped, stole, you name it.
The title of his Article is " Where have all the Christians Gone? Well, maybe you aren't looking in the right place.........
7 million plus and growing...........
Till tomorrow.
Monday, September 28, 2009
Sick
I hate being sick. I hate when my head hurts so bad that it feels as if someone is pounding on my head with their hands. Not much fun at all. I thought about all the things that could come our way within the next few months and I've read many interesting things.
Swine Flu of course has been on my mind because of the possibility of them making it Mandatory. It does make me nervous. For example, pregnant woman are on top of the list of those who should receive the swine flu shot. Mercury will be in the swine flu shot.
Here is a video of what Mercury does to the brain.
This will be in the swine flu shot. Our brain fibers being destroyed by mercury. This is in the shot. They want to give this to pregnant women? Interesting isn't it. I read an article in the New York times which DONALD G. McNEIL Jr. wrote and I quote " Don’t Blame Flu Shots for All Ills, Officials Say "
In his article he writes and I quote " As soon as swine flu vaccinations start next month, some people getting them will drop dead of heart attacks or strokes, some children will have seizures and some pregnant women will miscarry. "end Quote.
The article goes on to stay and I quote " But those events will not necessarily have anything to do with the vaccine. That poses a public relations challenge for federal officials, who remember how sensational reports of deaths and illnesses derailed the large-scale flu vaccine drive of 1976.
This time they are making plans to respond rapidly to such events and to try to reassure a nervous public — and headline-hunting journalists — that the vaccine is not responsible.
Every year, there are 1.1 million heart attacks in the United States, 795,000 strokes and 876,000 miscarriages, and 200,000 Americans have their first seizure. Inevitably, officials say, some of these will happen within hours or days of a flu shot. " end quote..
Isn't it interesting that we forget the very beginning of the article that states and I will quote again " As soon as swine flu vaccinations start next month, some people getting them will drop dead of heart attacks or strokes, some children will have seizures and some pregnant women will miscarry. "end quote.
I've always said that if Adam and Eve never ate from the tree that they would be alive today. Its common sense isn't it. Isn't it safe to say that the opposite will happen then if they don't get the swine shot?
Now you don't know me but if I came with a cup of something and I told you to drink it and I told you it was good for you, would you drink it? Isn't it the same thing when it comes to those telling us these vaccinations are good for us? We don't know what's in it. Heptavax-B contains blood to break it down
Immunizations Not Derived From Blood
Baby shots (DPT, OPV, MMR)
Hib vaccine
Pneumovax
Toxoids
Flu shots
Recombivax-HB
Immunizations Derived From Blood
Heptavax-B
Rhogam
Antitoxins
Antivenins (for snake and spider venom)
Immune globulins (for various diseases)
Gamma globulin
Hyperimmune serum preparations (antirabies serum, for example)
So as a stranger can I come up with a drink without letting you know what's in the drink? All I ask is that you tell me what's in it. There is no long term study done on what vaccinations do to our bodies. Is it possible that this is what causes most of our cancers we get today? Who knows there isn't a study done.
Anyway I have a bit more info on swine flu shots besides it containing mercury....Till tomorrow.
Swine Flu of course has been on my mind because of the possibility of them making it Mandatory. It does make me nervous. For example, pregnant woman are on top of the list of those who should receive the swine flu shot. Mercury will be in the swine flu shot.
Here is a video of what Mercury does to the brain.
This will be in the swine flu shot. Our brain fibers being destroyed by mercury. This is in the shot. They want to give this to pregnant women? Interesting isn't it. I read an article in the New York times which DONALD G. McNEIL Jr. wrote and I quote " Don’t Blame Flu Shots for All Ills, Officials Say "
In his article he writes and I quote " As soon as swine flu vaccinations start next month, some people getting them will drop dead of heart attacks or strokes, some children will have seizures and some pregnant women will miscarry. "end Quote.
The article goes on to stay and I quote " But those events will not necessarily have anything to do with the vaccine. That poses a public relations challenge for federal officials, who remember how sensational reports of deaths and illnesses derailed the large-scale flu vaccine drive of 1976.
This time they are making plans to respond rapidly to such events and to try to reassure a nervous public — and headline-hunting journalists — that the vaccine is not responsible.
Every year, there are 1.1 million heart attacks in the United States, 795,000 strokes and 876,000 miscarriages, and 200,000 Americans have their first seizure. Inevitably, officials say, some of these will happen within hours or days of a flu shot. " end quote..
Isn't it interesting that we forget the very beginning of the article that states and I will quote again " As soon as swine flu vaccinations start next month, some people getting them will drop dead of heart attacks or strokes, some children will have seizures and some pregnant women will miscarry. "end quote.
I've always said that if Adam and Eve never ate from the tree that they would be alive today. Its common sense isn't it. Isn't it safe to say that the opposite will happen then if they don't get the swine shot?
Now you don't know me but if I came with a cup of something and I told you to drink it and I told you it was good for you, would you drink it? Isn't it the same thing when it comes to those telling us these vaccinations are good for us? We don't know what's in it. Heptavax-B contains blood to break it down
Immunizations Not Derived From Blood
Baby shots (DPT, OPV, MMR)
Hib vaccine
Pneumovax
Toxoids
Flu shots
Recombivax-HB
Immunizations Derived From Blood
Heptavax-B
Rhogam
Antitoxins
Antivenins (for snake and spider venom)
Immune globulins (for various diseases)
Gamma globulin
Hyperimmune serum preparations (antirabies serum, for example)
So as a stranger can I come up with a drink without letting you know what's in the drink? All I ask is that you tell me what's in it. There is no long term study done on what vaccinations do to our bodies. Is it possible that this is what causes most of our cancers we get today? Who knows there isn't a study done.
Anyway I have a bit more info on swine flu shots besides it containing mercury....Till tomorrow.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Interesting
Should a person be concerned with what kind of Job they will have in the future? Should a person be concerned with college? My oldest sons plans at a time did include being a firefighter but those plans have changed because he noticed that being a firefighter would require to much of his time and since it would require to much of his time, time would be taken away from the preaching work, time would be taken away from the meetings. He changed his mind.
Keep in mind that Jesus himself received his education from Jehovah himself. What did Jesus do with what he learned? Throughout his three-and-a-half-year earthly ministry, he tirelessly shared with others what he had learned. Jesus said What I teach is not mine, but belongs to him that sent me. If anyone desires to do His will, he will know concerning the teaching whether it is from God or I speak of my own originality. Back then they wanted to know who taught Jesus. They wanted to know by whom Jesus was educated, and he told them plainly that his education was from God!
How much secular education should we pursue? This may vary, But if the job market calls for training in addition to the minimum required by law, it is up to parents to guide their children in making a decision about supplementary education or training, weighing both the potential benefits and the drawbacks of such additional studies.
What, though, should be one’s motive in choosing further education when that may appear necessary? Certainly not riches, self-glory, or praise. Remember the lesson we learned from Jesus’ example—education should be used to bring praise to Jehovah. If we choose further education, our motivation should be the desire to support ourselves adequately so that we can serve Jehovah as fully as possible in the Christian ministry.
As for my son, what is his plans then to support himself and his wife and maybe future children? Well Jesus said this found at Matthew chapter 6 verse 33 - he said: Keep on, then, seeking first the kingdom and his righteousness, and all these other things will be added to you. Anyone who truly appreciates the importance of this is going to give the Kingdom first place in his life. Everything else will fall into place. That doesn't mean that jobs will fall into your lap. It does require work on your part.
Today, People in general are more interested in other things. They eagerly pursue riches and the clothing, food and other material possessions and pleasures that money can buy. Their way of life reflects preoccupation with self and pleasure. In their lives, God is put in second place if they believe in him at all.
But to his disciples Jesus gave the counsel: Stop storing up for yourselves treasures upon the earth, because none of such possessions last forever. Rather, he said, store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, by serving Jehovah. He urged his followers to keep their eye “simple,” focusing their attention on just one thing, the doing of God’s will.
Jesus said that You cannot slave for God and for Riches. But what about material needs food, clothing and shelter? Jesus said to Stop being anxious. He directed their attention to the birds, and said that God feeds them. He encouraged his followers to take a lesson from the flowers, God clothes them beautifully.
Are not Jehovah’s intelligent human servants worth more than any of these? Again, Keep on, then, seeking first the kingdom and his righteousness,and all these other (necessary)things will be added to you. To what extent do we personally share the Kingdom good news with others? That depends, in part, on our circumstances and, to a large extent, on the depth of our appreciation.
Keep in mind that Jesus did not say, Seek the Kingdom when you have nothing else to do. Neither did he say, ‘As long as you talk about the Kingdom once in a while, you are doing all that is necessary.’ Nor did he say, ‘Start out with zeal for Kingdom interests; but if Paradise Earth seems long in coming, keep doing something in God’s service but live more like other people.
Knowing well the importance of the Kingdom, he expressed his Father’s will in the matter, saying: “Seek continually his kingdom.” Or, as the apostle Matthew recorded it: “Keep on, then, seeking first the kingdom and his righteousness.” Most of us find it necessary to do some kind of work to care for the physical needs of ourselves and our families, if we truly have faith, our lives will revolve around the work that God has given us in connection with his Kingdom. At the same time we will not neglect our family responsibilities.
Some of us are able to devote more time than others can to the field ministry. But in his parable concerning various kinds of soil Jesus showed that all whose hearts are like fine soil will bear fruit. To what extent? The circumstances of individuals vary. Age, health and family responsibilities are all factors. But when there is genuine appreciation, much can be accomplished.
Exampe: A SKILLFUL artist knows how to create depth. The details in the foreground are given greater prominence than those in the middle ground and background. It is much the same with our priorities in life. Some of them merit more prominence than others. Jesus said: Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them. Thus, spiritual values should be right up front. In contrast, material possessions should be of less significance.
I call them the wants and needs in life. Maybe you noticed that bright new TV in your house. It was purchased with cash. You sit on the couch and you are ready to watch a movie on your new tv. You want to get a snack. You open the refrigerator and notice there isn't any food. You ask mom or dad did they go shopping. They reply " I haven't received a paycheck from work yet " Eat a cup "O" noddle. They get paid in about 4 days so I hope you enjoy the noddles.
Wants and Needs. Did you need that TV? Do you need Food?
You finish school and you got a job. You are working Monday through Friday and it doesn't interfere with the meetings or service. The boss at work comes up and wants to give you a promotion but it means you will work on Sunday. You could use the extra money to purchase that brand new car you always wanted plus the extra money in your paycheck wouldn't hurt. What do you do?
Wants and Needs. Do you need spiritual food or no? Is the promotion going to cause you to lose your relationship with Jehovah by missing meetings? You want the job but do you need the job? Wants and Needs
I'm not saying that you should not take care of yourself in terms of education or looking for a job. What I'm saying is if you select anything that is going to get in the way of your personal relationship with Jehovah...Well....Wants and Needs......
A Christian’s view of the future should affect his or her choice of career. With the world passing away, a career based upon worldly ambitions is most unrealistic. Bible prophecy indicates how short-lived such a career would be. For this reason, many young people are choosing a career in full-time Bible education/volunteer work of helping people to understand the Bible.
How can somebody make a living that way? In order to support themselves financially, many have first received practical training in a trade. Choosing a successful career is therefore a result of getting advice from the right people, getting trained in courses that will help you reach your goals, and being realistic about your future. With Jesse my oldest son, we will both sit and think of what he can do without it getting in the way of his spiritual relationship with Jehovah. Of course that means that he will need to sit and pray to Jehovah to make sure his moves are guided by Jehovah's holy spirit.
What if Jesse wanted to devote his full time to support the organization meaning full time preaching work. I fully support that idea and will support him and his family financially if he chooses to do so. After all family takes care of each other no matter what and that includes money which isn't going to matter in the new system anyway.
What have Jesse and I talked about. Well, we were thinking of a trade of some sorts. Maybe a plumber like Joe?
Maybe an Electrician
Maybe a construction worker.
Maybe work at walgreens.
Maybe Jack in the box
Who knows but whatever he does, it will not and should not get in the way of his relationship with Jehovah. What about for a woman? Is it wrong to stay at home and take care of the home? That is a blessing. Thinking about it. While the husband is at work, the wife can devote her time to the ministry. If the wife wants to work the husband can devote his full time in the ministry. If they both work, they can devote what they can but point is, not to devote to much time to things that don't matter anyway. Remember wants and needs......
Folks till tomorrow....Have a great day....
Keep in mind that Jesus himself received his education from Jehovah himself. What did Jesus do with what he learned? Throughout his three-and-a-half-year earthly ministry, he tirelessly shared with others what he had learned. Jesus said What I teach is not mine, but belongs to him that sent me. If anyone desires to do His will, he will know concerning the teaching whether it is from God or I speak of my own originality. Back then they wanted to know who taught Jesus. They wanted to know by whom Jesus was educated, and he told them plainly that his education was from God!
How much secular education should we pursue? This may vary, But if the job market calls for training in addition to the minimum required by law, it is up to parents to guide their children in making a decision about supplementary education or training, weighing both the potential benefits and the drawbacks of such additional studies.
What, though, should be one’s motive in choosing further education when that may appear necessary? Certainly not riches, self-glory, or praise. Remember the lesson we learned from Jesus’ example—education should be used to bring praise to Jehovah. If we choose further education, our motivation should be the desire to support ourselves adequately so that we can serve Jehovah as fully as possible in the Christian ministry.
As for my son, what is his plans then to support himself and his wife and maybe future children? Well Jesus said this found at Matthew chapter 6 verse 33 - he said: Keep on, then, seeking first the kingdom and his righteousness, and all these other things will be added to you. Anyone who truly appreciates the importance of this is going to give the Kingdom first place in his life. Everything else will fall into place. That doesn't mean that jobs will fall into your lap. It does require work on your part.
Today, People in general are more interested in other things. They eagerly pursue riches and the clothing, food and other material possessions and pleasures that money can buy. Their way of life reflects preoccupation with self and pleasure. In their lives, God is put in second place if they believe in him at all.
But to his disciples Jesus gave the counsel: Stop storing up for yourselves treasures upon the earth, because none of such possessions last forever. Rather, he said, store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, by serving Jehovah. He urged his followers to keep their eye “simple,” focusing their attention on just one thing, the doing of God’s will.
Jesus said that You cannot slave for God and for Riches. But what about material needs food, clothing and shelter? Jesus said to Stop being anxious. He directed their attention to the birds, and said that God feeds them. He encouraged his followers to take a lesson from the flowers, God clothes them beautifully.
Are not Jehovah’s intelligent human servants worth more than any of these? Again, Keep on, then, seeking first the kingdom and his righteousness,and all these other (necessary)things will be added to you. To what extent do we personally share the Kingdom good news with others? That depends, in part, on our circumstances and, to a large extent, on the depth of our appreciation.
Keep in mind that Jesus did not say, Seek the Kingdom when you have nothing else to do. Neither did he say, ‘As long as you talk about the Kingdom once in a while, you are doing all that is necessary.’ Nor did he say, ‘Start out with zeal for Kingdom interests; but if Paradise Earth seems long in coming, keep doing something in God’s service but live more like other people.
Knowing well the importance of the Kingdom, he expressed his Father’s will in the matter, saying: “Seek continually his kingdom.” Or, as the apostle Matthew recorded it: “Keep on, then, seeking first the kingdom and his righteousness.” Most of us find it necessary to do some kind of work to care for the physical needs of ourselves and our families, if we truly have faith, our lives will revolve around the work that God has given us in connection with his Kingdom. At the same time we will not neglect our family responsibilities.
Some of us are able to devote more time than others can to the field ministry. But in his parable concerning various kinds of soil Jesus showed that all whose hearts are like fine soil will bear fruit. To what extent? The circumstances of individuals vary. Age, health and family responsibilities are all factors. But when there is genuine appreciation, much can be accomplished.
Exampe: A SKILLFUL artist knows how to create depth. The details in the foreground are given greater prominence than those in the middle ground and background. It is much the same with our priorities in life. Some of them merit more prominence than others. Jesus said: Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need, since the kingdom of the heavens belongs to them. Thus, spiritual values should be right up front. In contrast, material possessions should be of less significance.
I call them the wants and needs in life. Maybe you noticed that bright new TV in your house. It was purchased with cash. You sit on the couch and you are ready to watch a movie on your new tv. You want to get a snack. You open the refrigerator and notice there isn't any food. You ask mom or dad did they go shopping. They reply " I haven't received a paycheck from work yet " Eat a cup "O" noddle. They get paid in about 4 days so I hope you enjoy the noddles.
Wants and Needs. Did you need that TV? Do you need Food?
You finish school and you got a job. You are working Monday through Friday and it doesn't interfere with the meetings or service. The boss at work comes up and wants to give you a promotion but it means you will work on Sunday. You could use the extra money to purchase that brand new car you always wanted plus the extra money in your paycheck wouldn't hurt. What do you do?
Wants and Needs. Do you need spiritual food or no? Is the promotion going to cause you to lose your relationship with Jehovah by missing meetings? You want the job but do you need the job? Wants and Needs
I'm not saying that you should not take care of yourself in terms of education or looking for a job. What I'm saying is if you select anything that is going to get in the way of your personal relationship with Jehovah...Well....Wants and Needs......
A Christian’s view of the future should affect his or her choice of career. With the world passing away, a career based upon worldly ambitions is most unrealistic. Bible prophecy indicates how short-lived such a career would be. For this reason, many young people are choosing a career in full-time Bible education/volunteer work of helping people to understand the Bible.
How can somebody make a living that way? In order to support themselves financially, many have first received practical training in a trade. Choosing a successful career is therefore a result of getting advice from the right people, getting trained in courses that will help you reach your goals, and being realistic about your future. With Jesse my oldest son, we will both sit and think of what he can do without it getting in the way of his spiritual relationship with Jehovah. Of course that means that he will need to sit and pray to Jehovah to make sure his moves are guided by Jehovah's holy spirit.
What if Jesse wanted to devote his full time to support the organization meaning full time preaching work. I fully support that idea and will support him and his family financially if he chooses to do so. After all family takes care of each other no matter what and that includes money which isn't going to matter in the new system anyway.
What have Jesse and I talked about. Well, we were thinking of a trade of some sorts. Maybe a plumber like Joe?
Maybe an Electrician
Maybe a construction worker.
Maybe work at walgreens.
Maybe Jack in the box
Who knows but whatever he does, it will not and should not get in the way of his relationship with Jehovah. What about for a woman? Is it wrong to stay at home and take care of the home? That is a blessing. Thinking about it. While the husband is at work, the wife can devote her time to the ministry. If the wife wants to work the husband can devote his full time in the ministry. If they both work, they can devote what they can but point is, not to devote to much time to things that don't matter anyway. Remember wants and needs......
Folks till tomorrow....Have a great day....
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Wednesday
It's amazing the kind of language you hear today. It's not just from our adults but also from our children, our teenagers. Can they not complete a sentence without using foul language?
There’s no doubt that swearing is widespread. In fact, some youths would say that if they could have a dollar for every vulgar word they heard at school, they’d never have to work and their parents could retire.When you hear that kind of talk all day, it’s hard to keep from joining the crowd.
All of us are surrounded by swearing. Question is, have you picked up the habit yourself? If so, take a moment to examine just what motivates you to swear. Once you identify that, you’ll be in a better position to eliminate the habit.With this in mind, try answering the following questions.
In most cases, why do you swear?
□ To express anger or frustration
□ To get attention
□ To fit in with peers
□ To appear tough
□ To challenge authority
□ Other …………………………
In what circumstance are you most inclined to swear?
□ At school
□ At work
□ In e-mails, instant messages, or text messages
□ When by myself
How do you excuse your swearing?
□ Peers do it
□ Parents do it
□ Teachers do it
□ Entertainment is saturated with it
□ It’s no big deal—they’re just words
□ I only swear around people who aren’t bothered by it
□ Other …………………………
Why conquer this habit at all? Is swearing really that bad? Notice what Jesus said found Luke chapter 6 verse 45 says. It states: A good man brings forth good out of the good treasure of his heart, but a wicked man brings forth what is wicked out of his wicked treasure; for out of the heart’s abundance his mouth speaks.
Note that what we say doesn’t simply reflect the type of person we would like to be it reflects the type of person we already are. Even if you use bad language simply because others do it, copying their example reveals that you follow after the crowd and that you’re not your own person.
Swearing hurts your reputation. Like most youths, you probably care about your appearance. You want to make a good impression. But did you know that how you speak can have a greater impact on others than how you look? The fact is, your speech can determine such things as:
▪ Whom you will attract as friends.
▪ Whether you will be hired for a particular job or not.
▪ The amount of respect you will receive.
It’s true, often the initial impression people form of us based on our appearance quickly fades when we start talking.Swearing shows disrespect for the Creator of speech. Suppose you gave your friend as a gift a shirt or a blouse. How would you feel if you saw your friend using that garment as a rag or a doormat?
Think of how our Creator feels, then, when we misuse the gift of speech. No wonder that God’s Word states: “Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness.” Found at Ephesians 4:31.
There’s good reason to stop swearing. If it’s become a deeply ingrained habit, though, how can you overcome it? First: See the need to change. You likely won’t stop swearing until you understand how you will benefit from altering your speech.
Which factors below would motivate you to stop swearing?
□ Pleasing the Creator of speech
□ Gaining greater respect from others
□ Expanding my vocabulary
□ Bettering myself as a person
Second: Figure out what’s behind the swearing. Maybe you reasoned, swearing made me feel tougher in a way. I didn’t want people pushing me around. I wanted to have the upper hand, to tell people off the way all my friends did.
Understanding why you swear is a key to determining how you will address the problem. For example, if you swear just because everyone else does it, you need to learn to build confidence in your own strengths. Taking proper pride in being your own person is a vital part of growing up—and a big help in eliminating the habit of swearing.
Third: Find alternate ways of expressing yourself. It’s not just a matter of biting your tongue. Conquering the bad-language habit involves putting on “the new personality.” (Ephesians 4:22-24) This will help you to gain greater self-control and self-respect—as well as respect for others.
The following scriptures will help you to put on—and keep on—the new personality.
Colossians 3:2: “Keep your minds fixed on the things above.”
Application: Train your mind to value things that are upright. Your thoughts influence the way you speak.
Proverbs 13:20: “He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly.”
Application: The language used by your associates can rub off on you.
Psalm 19:14: “Let the sayings of my mouth and the meditation of my heart become pleasurable before you, O Jehovah.”
Application: Jehovah notices how we use the gift of speech.
Still need help? Why not use the chart above to track your progress by noting how many times you used a bad word? You may be surprised at how quickly you improve your vocabulary!
Till tomorrow.....
There’s no doubt that swearing is widespread. In fact, some youths would say that if they could have a dollar for every vulgar word they heard at school, they’d never have to work and their parents could retire.When you hear that kind of talk all day, it’s hard to keep from joining the crowd.
All of us are surrounded by swearing. Question is, have you picked up the habit yourself? If so, take a moment to examine just what motivates you to swear. Once you identify that, you’ll be in a better position to eliminate the habit.With this in mind, try answering the following questions.
In most cases, why do you swear?
□ To express anger or frustration
□ To get attention
□ To fit in with peers
□ To appear tough
□ To challenge authority
□ Other …………………………
In what circumstance are you most inclined to swear?
□ At school
□ At work
□ In e-mails, instant messages, or text messages
□ When by myself
How do you excuse your swearing?
□ Peers do it
□ Parents do it
□ Teachers do it
□ Entertainment is saturated with it
□ It’s no big deal—they’re just words
□ I only swear around people who aren’t bothered by it
□ Other …………………………
Why conquer this habit at all? Is swearing really that bad? Notice what Jesus said found Luke chapter 6 verse 45 says. It states: A good man brings forth good out of the good treasure of his heart, but a wicked man brings forth what is wicked out of his wicked treasure; for out of the heart’s abundance his mouth speaks.
Note that what we say doesn’t simply reflect the type of person we would like to be it reflects the type of person we already are. Even if you use bad language simply because others do it, copying their example reveals that you follow after the crowd and that you’re not your own person.
Swearing hurts your reputation. Like most youths, you probably care about your appearance. You want to make a good impression. But did you know that how you speak can have a greater impact on others than how you look? The fact is, your speech can determine such things as:
▪ Whom you will attract as friends.
▪ Whether you will be hired for a particular job or not.
▪ The amount of respect you will receive.
It’s true, often the initial impression people form of us based on our appearance quickly fades when we start talking.Swearing shows disrespect for the Creator of speech. Suppose you gave your friend as a gift a shirt or a blouse. How would you feel if you saw your friend using that garment as a rag or a doormat?
Think of how our Creator feels, then, when we misuse the gift of speech. No wonder that God’s Word states: “Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness.” Found at Ephesians 4:31.
There’s good reason to stop swearing. If it’s become a deeply ingrained habit, though, how can you overcome it? First: See the need to change. You likely won’t stop swearing until you understand how you will benefit from altering your speech.
Which factors below would motivate you to stop swearing?
□ Pleasing the Creator of speech
□ Gaining greater respect from others
□ Expanding my vocabulary
□ Bettering myself as a person
Second: Figure out what’s behind the swearing. Maybe you reasoned, swearing made me feel tougher in a way. I didn’t want people pushing me around. I wanted to have the upper hand, to tell people off the way all my friends did.
Understanding why you swear is a key to determining how you will address the problem. For example, if you swear just because everyone else does it, you need to learn to build confidence in your own strengths. Taking proper pride in being your own person is a vital part of growing up—and a big help in eliminating the habit of swearing.
Third: Find alternate ways of expressing yourself. It’s not just a matter of biting your tongue. Conquering the bad-language habit involves putting on “the new personality.” (Ephesians 4:22-24) This will help you to gain greater self-control and self-respect—as well as respect for others.
The following scriptures will help you to put on—and keep on—the new personality.
Colossians 3:2: “Keep your minds fixed on the things above.”
Application: Train your mind to value things that are upright. Your thoughts influence the way you speak.
Proverbs 13:20: “He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly.”
Application: The language used by your associates can rub off on you.
Psalm 19:14: “Let the sayings of my mouth and the meditation of my heart become pleasurable before you, O Jehovah.”
Application: Jehovah notices how we use the gift of speech.
Still need help? Why not use the chart above to track your progress by noting how many times you used a bad word? You may be surprised at how quickly you improve your vocabulary!
Till tomorrow.....
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